Awaiting the beautiful dawn

It’s the dawn, dawn of a new day

New feelings, fresh as the morning dew
sharp as being a hew.

Never felt before
Tumultuous as the seashore.

White blosoms of snow
Tranquil suns’ glow,
Heat and cold makes it flow.
Meandering river and the vast sea
Mingling together to further grow.

Clear blue sky
Dark clouds coming by.
Rays tearing apart the drops
Seven colours of the Bow crops.

Sensation so immense
Hard to shackle with a fence.

Very soon reality touches and,
Alice is out of the wonderland.
Conversation still overdue
Time so near to bid adieu.

No shade in the scorching sun
Emotions sound like a pun.
Adoring the bow is no more fun
The colours have splitted in tons

Days are more weary
Nights have become dreary
Its time for dusk
My nature is a bit brusque.

Fearing the dark night
Strangulating the inner fight

Thinking back to see, there are still a lot who love me the most
Did I ever raise them a toast.

Looking ahead for a new dawn…..

HAWAI DHAKKAN

Not long back I started flying a bit frequently. I remember my first flight that had good deal of excitement. But soon the excitement faded away and it became more of a duty. Duty to go a bit ahead of time, duty to stand in the check in line, duty for immigration mayhem… and so on.
I tried to fly with different companies to see what is the difference. And certainly Jet and kingfisher came out clearly. Another airplane that came out distinctly is Air Deccan, can also be called hawai dhakkan, with love or HATE. This was based on in house services.
If I consider off flight services(professional only…) hawai dhakkan maintains its position of being the worst Indian domestic flights. It seems that the dhakkans’ attendants and officials get a special training. This is to overlook the passengers’ plight, to politely say we will do everything possible to help you and be happy that they have added one more person in their list of befooled ones.
I remember hearing from only a few friends who had missed their international flights. And this time I joined this elite league. Thanks to Air deccan aka Hawai dhakkan.
I ahd a connecting flight with Hawai dhakkan and it showed a great consistency in its record by first announcing of it getting late. All the people had already checked in and after waiting for an hour, a pretty lady came to announce if we wanted to go with the flight. What a great question, guess what all the passengers had come to see the airport lounge and not to board the flight. After a while, she comes back again with a new twist: She announces: It will not be possible to take your baggage with you in the flight, do you all still want to board the flight? Then I will call the flight. Another example of perfect training and timing. All this is happening after announcement of delay of an hour. Finally for me this temproray ordeal came to an end when I felt if I further wait for this dhakkan I will certainly miss my next flight. I booked the ticket in Jet.I sympathize with those unfortunate ones who waited for the Dhakkan to still arrive. I finally got the news that the flight has been canceled. Though I was also not in a great position. As it was too late by then and I had missed my further flight.
Now again this dhakkan never took any responsibility and not even helped in any way. The perfect training paid them off once again. The only answer I got: We are not responsible for any unforeseen delays, what the hell! But again the Jet airways did help in getting the ticket reconfirmed for my flight though after a lot of discussion but at-least it helped.
I have not even been refunded the fare. This will be another ordeal .aah!!!


So my learning neverever rely on the dhakkans.

Friendship: Pleasure, Utility or Virtue

I found myself as an innovator after this friendship binding energy curve, as I did not find any thing even close to this in any of the friendship citations. The reason can be, either it is a great work (a bit of exaggeration is good) or this is a lavish trash.
Lets not be too pumped up and settle with the great work. Leave the lavish part.
Also, here I must not take all the credit and must admit that the technical names are certainly inspired from some of the theories.

We befriend someone for three reasons viz. pleasure, utility and virtue.

It is very apparent here that pleasure and utility friendship are being carried over having a notion of getting some benefit in return. It looks like pleasure and utility friendships are at best deficient modes of friendship; by contrast, virtue friendships, because they are motivated by the excellences of your friend's character, are genuine, non-deficient friendships.

So the probability of friendship following bond1(good friends) curve is very close to the numeral 1 in the case of virtue friendship. Bond2 curve is a sort of friendship that never shaped up. Bond 3 curve did try to make headway. However it may be due to lack of commitment or drive that it never managed to sustain any turbulence, which is part and parcel of all relationships.

All the relationships/friendship starts with orientaion. This is followed by knowing a bit more than the face value. As face is also like a bikni which hides more than it reveals.
This stage is of aquaintance friendship. We generally make up our mind if we will be friends or not. And this is where bond 2 finds a different way from bond1 curve. If we tend to meet further we have transcended this phase and are nearing to another level of friendship.
It must be understood that making your friend totally dependent on yourself is not real friendship. The partner must be given scope for independent thinking even if it means he/she can do without you at the end. There is a need to care but simultaneously this caring is the need of friendship and not of the friend. This should always be clear that every persons’ space can be filled by another.
The next stage of friendship is more of a roller coaster ride if atall we care. There is a lot of chance that we do not echo the same thoughts. This results in lag between the thought process. And the result is misunderstanding. Now again if the friendship is based only on pleasure or utility, the friendship will not last. Hence, Bond3 curve shows declining tendency in friendship curve after the turbulance.On the other hand virtue friendship can go to another stage of friendship, friendship of trust.
The virtue friendship may also be in the turmoil if it is not sorted out. And the only way to sort out any confusion is discussion, an open discussion. But yes, it must be inititated. And one will initiate it only if he/she cares for the other partner. If we do not care about the partner than it really does not matter what he/she thinks. Maintaining silence always results in a cold war. Silence can always be taken as being “not interested in friendship anymore” or simply “introversion”. There is certainly a lot of room for wild thoughts. The result in either case is the bond3curve going to nadir.
If we follow a open minded discussion friendship sustains and carries on. Further, `Bond 1 is the curve for mutual self disclosure. It basically means friends share which they may not share with rest of the friends.
Sharing also starts when there is a feeling of positive vibes from the other person. This again strengthens the frindship. Also in this case of mutual self disclosure, we make ourself vulnerable to the other friend. This trust further strengthens the friendship.
This is bond1.
And as the friendship continues friendship tends to be good..hmm! may be best friends are made this way. And this certainly is a stable relation.


P.S. I was just nearing the end, when I had a small discussion with one of my really good friends. And I knew a disastrous way to show anguish. It was to be silent sine die. Therefore,I added the para for the need of open discussion.

DRIVERS OF GROWTH

JUDGE YOUR LADY

Judge your lady:
These are a few ways to rate your partner/ to be partner. Giving so much time to this bullshit came to me as I saw many instances where “love was not only blind but also foolish”.
I have tried to number better traits higher but again as we all know if you tend to be utterly foolish you can choose the lowest numbered item

0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Higher number towards 10

1 Feminism (Number 0 to 10)

2 Attitude: 1. Rude 2. Dutch 3. ok 4. Flirting 5. Sweet

3 Complexion: 1. rotten wheatish(no need to feel offended) 2. Brown 3. Wheatish 4. Milky white 5. brownish white 6. White

4 Face: 1. manly 2. tough 3. Soft 4. Fluffy

5 Voice: 1. hoarse 2.squeaky 3. sweet

6 Figure: 1.Fat 2.skinny 3. slim 4. perfect (I am bad at quantitatively defining the figure, so sorry)

7 Hair texture : 1. wiry 2. coarse 3. medium 4. fine

8 Hot: (number 2 to 10) assumed that all women look a bit hot

9 Feel of men counterpart: (number 2 to 10)(assumed men generally slip on any lady)

10 Beauty: (Probably lies in the eyes of beholder)

11 Usual Walking/standing style 1. legs apart 2. carries self in elegance

12 Eyes: 1. hooded 2. small 3. prominent

13 Eyes’ colour: 1. choclate 2. sapphire/aquamarine 2. Black

14 Cleavage: 1. Droopy 2. Balloon

15 Traits: +ve(Sociable, Orderly, Intelligent, Shy, Sensitive)Find the –ve ones yourelf. Can’t take pain to write more for you(Can’t be numbered)

16 Monetary attraction: 1. You always pay for her 2. equal distribution 3. takes initiative and fairly equal distribution

Confusion

Dur ka dhol suhawna lagta hai. This seems very much right in many situations. This is particularly true for we all Indians who are ever craving to move west. Ask somebody: where do you plan to be…. Amrika comes the answer . or America or Europe. Why? Hmm.. do not really know. Probably it is very great.
Great? C’mon you must be kidding. What does great mean. Again there is some pause. Hmm. More money. Very true. But again it is like bikni which hides more than it exposes. More money, at what cost.
There are people who earn a hell lot of money and live a good life, though certainly hectic. But simultaneously there are people who had liked to go to amrika but how and why were not actually clear tend to go to certain fields whose result is not as glittering as it was assumed earlier. Many can be found wearing good clothes, spending money lavishly but are they really happy with their work .May be not! I see many brown men and women working in the lowest category of work. I agree that it is very subjective, that someone has to do menial jobs. But why we? Where did we go wrong then, probably overestimation of self and under estimation of the competence required in the modern world. I see people roaming on the street drugged and stopping every brown people to ask if he is from Mumbai.
But certainly there are many who succeed. A fresh example I see is a Punjabi restaurant owner in Netherland (Hague). He came 30 years back by sea way with no money in hand but now owns a descent hotel.

great idea of ancesstors

A few things can be sensed only when we come across it. We all have desires, aspirations to do something great, to reach at a position better than the current one. Either we reach it or may be not. Let me start with the failure. If we are unable to achieve the goal, for a time being we get frustrated and sad. The situation becomes grim at times if peers are able to reach it. Probably this is our nature. Some of us are unable to cope with the failure thinking it as the end but the brave and pragmatic people strive, struggle to grab the next best opportunity. Life is full of ups and downs, and when we finally achieve something which we certainly will, its all happy and gay.
Therefore we always try to look forward to celebrate every small event, every small success. What I feel is New year also comes in line with this argument.We have found out great ways to rejuvenate the feelings, energize ourselves, and forget the setbacks.